Sideline Behavior

Women, particularly the mothers who volunteer, are often the backbone of what makes a youth sports team work smoothly.
Unfortunately, as with Dads, when it comes to their own child's sports
team, a mom's greatest strengths can become weaknesses that can cause
problems for her child and his/her coach.  A veteran sports moms offers five tips to moms on how to make their child's sports experience more enjoyable.

Clearly, some parents are taking children's games far too seriously. The games are for our children, yet time and time again, we are witness to parents losing control. What lessons are our children learning when they see mothers and fathers yelling insults at referees, hands clenched, faces red with anger?

Everyone involved in youth sports has a role to play: players play; coaches coach; officials officiate; and spectators sit in the stands or stand on the sidelines and cheer positively. Nine out of ten incidents of bad sportsmanship occurs where people stray from their role. If everyone followed the golden rule of sportsmanship - to know their role and stay within it - the result would be fewer people misbehaving at youth sports competitions.

Good sportsmanship by parents on the sports sidelines is essential.

This is one challenge from which, I believe, we should not back down if we hope to change how parents behave on the youth sports sidelines. The need for a change in parent behavior is well documented. Simply put, the number of times when parents act inappropriately towards officials, players, coaches and other parents is unacceptably high. Most agree that something must be done, but are unsure whether they want to put in the effort required to change the status quo.

Listen to the comments you make at your child's game. Are you singling out your son for the touchdown run but forgetting to praise the guard who made the block that sprung him into the clear? Show support for the entire team. Instead of focusing on your child, choose cheers that compliment the entire team, like "Good team effort," "Way to go, defense!" or "Great blocking, line!"

Children who have loud and noisy parents are at a disadvantage playing sports. Focusing on the game with a screeching parent in the background is next to impossible. A mother is always the first to pick out the voice of her child crying, "Mom! Mom!" in a crowded store. It's the same way with kids. It doesn't matter how many fans are yelling, they can pick out their parents' voices through the din.