Coaching Girls

My 13 year old daughter just completed her AAU basketball season playing for an elite team. This is actually her third year playing for an elite team and without a doubt the worst season for us. She is a very talented and athletic young lady with the heart and desire it takes to succeed. However, this year we experienced our first taste of questionable coaching. This was his first year with this Elite program and from our knowledge got the position thru mutual friends of the director. From the beginning, he was a loose cannon.

I've coached both boys and girls teams for several years. One thing I've noticed is that families of boys will make a commitment to be at just about all of the games, vacations will be scheduled after the season or around the schedule. Girls families will just pick up and take off at any point during the season, even at tournament time.
Case in point, at our end of the season U-12 softball tournament, 3 of the teams in our league forfeited their tournament games because they didn't have enough players. Kids were gone on vacation/ camps, etc.

Have you ever noticed that coaches treat girls differently, as if they are afraid that girls are going to start crying at even a hint of  feedback? The best coach I ever had was when I was playing with a boys junior high school team and my coach yelled at me and made me do sprints and whatever it took to make me a better player, just as he did the boys; there was no special treatment. It made me into a tough well-rounded hockey player. Girls can handle being coached like the boys because we also are determined to become the best players that we can be.

Curious. Have you coached both boys and girls? Is there a difference in the way that you coach boys from girls?