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Excessive Adult Praise For Youth Athletes Can Backfire For Those With Low Self-Esteem, Study Suggests

Inflated praise by children with low self-esteem may fear they will not be able to meet the high standards set for them

Parents and other adults heap the highest praise on children with low self-esteem who are most likely to actually be hurt by the compliments, finds a new study, which may have implications for youth sports parents of such children.[1]

"We found that adults are especially inclined to give inflated praise to children with low self-esteem," said Eddie Brummelman, MS, a visiting scholar at The Ohio State University, doctoral student in psychology at Utrecht University in The Netherlands, and lead author of the study, which is slated to appear in the journal Psychological Science. Mother praising T-ball players

"This inclination may backfire, however. We found that inflated praise decreases challenge-seeking in children with low self-esteem and has the opposite effect on children with high self-esteem." 

Implicit demand for continued exceptional performance?

"Inflated praise contains an implicit demand for continued exceptional performance. When children are praised for doing 'incredibly' well, they might infer that they are expected to do incredibly well in the future," says Bremmelman.

"Children with low self-esteem might fear that they will not be able to meet the high standards set for them, and therefore avoid challenges. By contrast, children with high self-esteem might see inflated praise as an encouragement, and seek challenges to display that they can meet the high standards set for them.

"In the context of youth sports, parents, coaches, and other adults might be advised to resist the temptation to target inflated praise at children with low self-esteem and to target such praise at children with high self-esteem instead. When adults want to praise children with low self-esteem, they are advised to do so in a noninflated manner," Brummelman suggested.

What is inflated praise?

Youth sports parenting experts have long recommended that youth sports parents resist the urge to criticize their child's athletic performance, and praise their effort, not performance.

While many studies have looked at how praise affects children, this is the first research to empirically examine the impact of inflated praise, said Brummelman.

What exactly is inflated praise? For this research, it was small changes in the praise given to children, often involving just the addition of one additional word. Inflated praise included an adverb (such as "incredibly") or adjective (such as "perfect") signaling a very positive evaluation. For example, "you're good at this" was simple praise, while "you're incredibly good at this" was considered inflated praise.

Study details

In one of three related studies, Brummelman and his colleagues found that adults gave twice as much inflated praise to children identified as having low self-esteem compared to those children with high self-esteem.

In another study, 114 parents (88 percent mothers) participated with their child. Several days before the experiment, children completed a measure to determine their level of self-esteem.

Then, during an observation at their homes, the parents administered 12 timed math exercises to their child. Afterwards, the parents scored how well their child did on the tests. The sessions were videotaped, and the researchers were not in the room.

Watching the videotape, the researchers counted how many times the parent praised their child, and classified praise as inflated or non-inflated. The most common inflated praise statements included "You answered very fast!" and "Super good!" and "Fantastic!"

The most common non-inflated praise statements included "You're good at this!" and "Well done!"

Results showed that parents praised their children about 6 times during the session, and about 25 percent of the praise was inflated.

Most importantly, parents gave more inflated praise to children with low self-esteem than they did to children with high self-esteem.


"Parents seemed to think that the children with low self-esteem needed to get extra praise to make them feel better," said Brad Bushman, co-author of the study and professor of communication and psychology at Ohio State.

"It's understandable why adults would do that, but we found in another experiment that this inflated praise can backfire in these children."

In this other experiment, 240 children drew a famous van Gogh painting (Wild Roses) and then received inflated, non-inflated or no praise in the form of a note from someone identified as a "professional painter."

After receiving the note, the children were told they were going to draw other pictures, but they could choose which ones they would copy. They were told they could choose pictures that were easy to do, "but you won't learn much." Or they could choose to draw more difficult pictures in which "you might make many mistakes, but you'll definitely learn a lot too."

Results showed that children with low self-esteem were more likely to choose the easier pictures if they received inflated praise. By contrast, children with high self-esteem were more likely to choose the more difficult pictures if they received inflated praise.

These findings suggest that inflated praise may put too much pressure on those with low self-esteem, Brummelman said.

"If you tell a child with low self-esteem that they did incredibly well, they may think they always need to do incredibly well. They may worry about meeting those high standards and decide not to take on any new challenges."

The lesson may be that parents and adults need to fight their urge to give inflated praise to children with low self-esteem, Bushman said.

"It goes against what many people may believe would be most helpful," Bushman said. "But it really isn't helpful to give inflated praise to children who already feel bad about themselves."

1. Jeff Grabmeier, "When Being Called 'Incredibly Good' Is Bad for Children. Newswise, January 2, 2014. http://www.newswise.com/articles/view/611996/?sc=dwhn, accessed January 2, 2014.

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