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The End (Winning) Doesn't Justify the Means (Abuse)

Abuse in the name of winning

Clearly, Courtney's parents and I felt the coach's behavior was emotionally and physically abusive. What was disturbing wasn't so much that the coach and principal disagreed. It was that, because they wanted a winning basketball team (and felt most of the parents did, too), they felt they were somehow justified in doing whatever it took to achieve that objective, no matter the emotional, psychological or physical toll it would likely take on the players.

Is Courtney's story an extreme and unusual case? Neither. Sadly, it is the kind of story I hear virtually every day from concerned parents all across the country.

Yet, hopefully, it illustrates in a powerful way the kind of abuse that is too often condoned in today's "win-at-all-costs" youth sports culture, abuse that, simply put, has to stop.


Adapted from "Preventing Child Abuse in Youth Sports: What Mothers Can Do" in the book Home Team Advantage: The Critical Role of Mothers in Youth Sports (Harper Collins) by Brooke de Lench, Executive Director of MomsTEAM Institute  of Youth Sports Safety and Producer of The Smartest Team: Making High School Football Safer (PBS).

Contact: delench@MomsTeam.com