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Game Officials Deserve Respect of Parents, Players, and Coaches

Not on same page

Cats and dogs. Oil and water. Parents and youth sports officials. Some things just don't mix.

Parents and officials never seem to be on the same page. There always seems to be some tension between them. It often seems to parents that the person officiating must be seeing a different game than they are. Every call seems to go against their child's team.

Go to just about any youth sports contest and you are bound to hear parents make comments about the official like the following:

"Hey, ref, you must be blind!"

"Hey, ref. You want to borrow my glasses?"

"Ref, are you going out drinking with the other coach after this game?"

And when their child's team has lost the game, you will often hear this comment:

"It is the ref''s fault we lost the game. If he hadn't made that call, we would have won the game."

A cynic would say that refs and parents are the necessary evils of youth sports. Refs are necessary to make sure that one side goes away from the contest feeling their team was cheated, and parents are necessary to provide the players and transport them to and from the game.

Officials are people too 

But before you jump to agree with this characterization, keep in mind the following:

  • No matter the sport, there will always be older people on the field to see that the game is played fairly and by the rules.
  • Sometimes the officials are volunteers and not as well trained as they should be.
  • In other leagues they may be well trained, sanctioned by an officiating organization or the league.
  • Each league has its own way of finding referees

The general rule is the higher the level of competitive play, the more likely the officials are trained and paid and a member of an official's organization. But, whatever the level, remember that officials:

  • Are people with whom you work, or go to church, or parents of your child's classmates in school
  • Want to make youth sports a positive experience, just like you
  • Are trying their best to be fair
  • Have feelings just like everyone else.

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This is an excellent post

This is an excellent post and should be distributed to every coach and parent of a youth league team. Officials jobs are difficult, many times more difficult because the level of play is sometimes poor. You can't make every call or there would be no flow to the game.
Most of the time, the coach will dicatate how the ump will be handles. If the coach is a whiner, the fans will usually be whiners also.
I always suggest that everyone should to their local YMCA or ball diamonds and volunteer to officiate or umpire a contest. You'll get your eyes open as to how difficult it is.

Educating players is a priority

I agree with many points made here but it seems to me that as coaches and as parents we have a responsibility to educate our young players so they can appreciate the importance of being a good sportsman or woman. This is an extract from an article which focuses on drawing up a code of conduct for young players. It's taken from http://www.bettersoccercoaching.com/Article-1847--1--Soccer-coaching-tip....
What to base a code of conduct on:
A code of conduct is written to reflect the responsibilities players have to the game.
Young players should be made aware of this and be made aware of what is expected of them.
They should know that no one wins all the time. You win some, you lose some and when they lose, they should do so graciously.
They should congratulate the winners, not blame the referee or anyone else, and be determined to do better next time.
Good losers earn more respect than bad winners.
Obligations towards the game – a player should:
Develop their sporting abilities in terms of soccer skill, technique, tactics and stamina.
Give maximum effort, even when the game is lost.
Set a positive example to younger players and supporters.
Never use inappropriate language.
Always keep within the laws of the sport and use fair play.